Edition 12

motherhood

Bringing home baby

Harriet GoodingsComment

If you start typing ‘intro’ in to Google, top of the list is ‘introduce dog to baby’.

I’ve had a few people ask the question ‘What does Frankie think of Mabel?’ or ‘Is Frankie ok with her?’ so I thought I’d jot down our experience of introducing them to one another.

One’s not crying and the other’s not barking. It’s a good day.

One’s not crying and the other’s not barking. It’s a good day.

Admittedly, it didn’t cross my mind that Frankie may not like Mabel as I was aware he was around small children when he was a pup (we adopted Frankie when he was 3yrs old from a family who were moving abroad) and he’s great with my nieces.. so we’ve been fortunate to have witnessed him not being phased by crying infants. Dogs on the other hand.. (that’s a different post).

From my aforementioned Google search, I found dogstrust.com and positively.com to be the most informative, we followed most of the advised protocol and gave Frankie something that smells of Mabel, he did his nasal inspection and swiftly got back to his favourite task of the day - barking at people walking past the house. So far so good.

From Mabel’s initial arrival, Frankie has pretty much ignored her. He’ll go up to her for the odd sniff or face lick but all in all we’ve been lucky not to have a disgruntled pooch. He’s also mastered walking alongside the pram as well as sitting in the basket when he thinks he needs paw rest or when I need to sneak him into the post office.

Smile kids!!

Smile kids!!

Something I don’t think I was ready for (and looking back now this was as stupid as not knowing how to sterilise a baby bottle.. FYI no one tells you! and yes.. I could share a whole tutorial on it now!) was the way my time was now going to be split. BM (before Mabel) I was able to devote more of my days to picking him up, spontaneous belly rubs, booping his nose and sneaking up on him to get that perfect sleeping sausage picture before he’d realise I was being annoying again. Of course I knew things were going to change, but I don’t think I had considered how much my time would be taken up by learning the ropes of motherhood.

#whatwasIthinking

My biggest distraction

My biggest distraction

Nearly 4 months on and whilst Mabel gets cuter by the day and me, more tired. I find the time I do get to spend with Frankie is quality time. So if I’m able to nap in the day.. he’s my go to nap buddy. If I know I’m going to be out of the house or pre-occupied for a few hours then I ensure he has something to chew, a kong or has a walk beforehand if possible. Frankie’s the kind of dog who is quite happy to just be there, he follows me around the house, usually so that he has a good view of anything I may be eating so not much has changed there.

Luckily for Frankie, he has a weaning Mabel to look forward too, what with the highchair buffet, they’ll be besties in no time. 

Harriet and the gang xx

P.S… An important message from Dogs Trust ‘Remember; NEVER leave any baby or child alone with any dog – no matter how trustworthy you think they are.’

Baby Mabel

Harriet Goodings

Just wanted to update you all on the past couple of weeks and introduce you to my daughter Mabel, the newest member of the Edition 12 pack!

Mabel Charlotte Drane, born 09/06/18 at 10.39am, weighing 7lb 8.

Mabel Charlotte Drane, born 09/06/18 at 10.39am, weighing 7lb 8.

Jonathan and I have had such lovely comments and well-wishes from family and friends and as I've got my hands-full right now, I thought putting everything on one page is much easier for my sleep deprived brain (plus I could use the traffic). So if I haven't replied.. you probably caught me in the midst of nappy changing and trying to work out whether Mabel looks like me or has inherited Jonathan's hairline. Looks like the latter.. but here's an overview of what's happened.

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Contractions started on the Friday night and after being sent home from hospital and then returning within a couple of hours, I had dilated quickly which didn’t leave time for my planned method of pain relief - epidural. I had a birthing pool and gas and air but by the time Mabel was delivered I was on dry land with NO pain relief. I've often heard people say that you forget the pain after a while..? haha unlikely.

I then lost 1.7 litres of blood due to a retained placenta and went straight to theatre to have that ‘sorted’. I may have needed a blood transfusion, but somehow by body managed ok. The average to lose is about 500ml. 

Mabel was born with a cleft palette and a heart murmur. To look at you wouldn’t know, but a cleft palette means there’s a gap in the roof of her mouth which will require surgery at around 9 months old. 

Our extended stay in hospital has been establishing Mabel’s feeding (and my recovery) as without the roof of her mouth she is unable to latch like normal babies. We’ve had great support from the cleft team who are helping Mabel with special bottles to get her on track, otherwise she requires tube feeding (which is in the pic). Instead of being on her back like 'normal' babies, Mabel is to remain on her side with a cushion behind her to prevent her rolling back. 

It’s not something that is picked up on an ultrasound, so it’s all a bit of a surprise. She’s doing great and is getting chubbier by the day. She’s now off the heart monitor as all has improved over the last few days. 

Koala bear

Koala bear

So after graduating from what felt like 'new mum school', we are home. If anyone needs a lesson on sterilising/tube feeding/expressing/bottle feeds - I’m your girl. 

Made it to the end of the road - baby steps.

Made it to the end of the road - baby steps.

Frankie is still a little unsure about our new resident, his head is resting on the keyboard as I type just so I don't forget he's there. We managed a family dog walk yesterday with Mabel wrapped up like a koala bear where Frankie was starting to come round to the idea of sharing the humans.

Between all the health professional visitors we are slowly getting back to a normal routine where Edition 12 updates will resume. 

Thank you so much to all of those who have wished us well, we feel incredibly lucky and beyond grateful for the support and of course little Mabel.

All the best,

Harriet, Jonathan, Frankie and Mabel

Xx

Still working on that brother sister bond.

Still working on that brother sister bond.